One of the hardest challenges I’ve faced on my way to becoming an author is this: Of all the people around me, I am the only one who sees what I’m doing as a job.
Most people close to me seem to assume I have loads of free time. You know… Because what I’m doing isn’t really work… The 8+ hours that I spend most days agonizing over my manuscript doesn’t count.
I can’t speak for everyone, but this is directed at those who’ve experienced the same thing I have. All those little things people ask you to do because you’ve “got so much free time,” that stops you in your writing tracks and takes you out of the moment/mood/mentality that you just spend the last HOUR working yourself into.
Sure we can say “no” or “I’m busy,” some of the times. Yet as time goes on, it wares at us.
And when you seek assistance or an opinion on your work, so many who said it was cool that you were writing in the beginning, don’t really care anymore, if ever. They feign interest or support for only so long and eventually you just quit asking. Who wants to pressure someone into reading your work? And from those who will give you the time of day, they’re usually people whose thoughts come with some kind of bias.
In my case, I’ve got a parent who things what I write is spectacular. But let’s be real here… They may love it, but I can’t seem to get anyone else interested in it for very long.
So what do you have then? A clearly biased opinion (which in many ways is detrimental) as your soul source for support and encouragement? It eats away at you.
Yet we don’t want to give up and step back into the daily grind for the rest of our lives. We do little things like schedule writing times where no one is allowed to bother us. We persevere in our little vacuum. Every milestone we reach means the world to us and oh so often is our only source of motivation. One thing I often have to remind myself of is that once I get publish (Not if!), all of my effort, the months of screaming silence as I live mostly within my own head, will all be vindicated. That first check or agent deal will retroactively turn all that “wasted time” that others seem to see it as into legitimate work and me building my career as a writer. This is a truth we all share.
So this is a shout out to all my fellow aspiring authors out there! Don’t lose heart. Don’t give up. Keep on grasping for your dream.
Introduce yourself to me! I will follow your progress blog and give words of encouragement. I will give you an honest opinion. I will get excited over your intricate schemes and when you update on how many more words you’ve written or how much progress you’ve made.
You don’t have to be alone in your endeavor.